As the third anniversary of the Goldfish’s death arrives I wondered how to mark it on the blog. I could write about how much I miss him still and how often I think of him. I could write about how I wish things had been different for him; that he hadn’t had dementia, hadn’t been abandoned by his wife at the worst possible time in his life.
But, I’m not. Instead, I’m going to share some photos from his grandson’s graduation. The Goldfish might not have understood what a Masters in Biomedical Sciences means (not sure I do!) but he would have been so proud.
He always showed great pride in any of my achievements. He attended everything from my graduation to my first book launch. He turned up at my poetry readings even read my poems, even though he was of the ‘proper poetry ought to rhyme school’ so I know he would be (perhaps is?) incredibly proud of his grandson’s achievement.
Oh, the Goldfish would have so enjoyed the day (well, if it had been a bit warmer!) and been so very proud of his grandson.
He’d have enjoyed the day merely because he was spending it with his family. Your son’s achievements would have been such an added bonus.
xxx Huge Hugs Mary xxx
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Thanks, David. You are right – spending time with his family meant a lot to him.
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What a beautiful way to celebrate your dad’s life.
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Thank you, Paul. There’s something rather fitting about David’s graduation being at this time – a kind of closing of the circle.
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You Dad was there in the true sense of spirit, I suspect. A proud achievement, the continuation of his family, and his name remembered. What more can any of us ask?
And you look so colourful too, Mary!
Well done to your son, please pass on my congratulations.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Thanks for commenting, Pete. He would have complained about the icy wind blowing through the quadrangles – he didn’t do cold well, didn’t Dad – but he’d have loved all the rest of it and a good lunch thrown in.
That’s my winter coat of brightness to keep me cheerful whatever the weather!
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The Goldfish is probably jumping up and down on his cloud and waving that harp!
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Oh, I love that image, Barb.
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What a wonderful, upbeat way to celebrate the life of a Super Dad ! Nothing would have stopped him from watching from a distance and roaring ‘Well done!’ to his very clever grandson.
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Thanks, Julie. I like the image Barb presents in the comment above of Dad jumping up and down on his cloud!
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I’m sure Dad would be looking down and be so proud, and if he’d been here he’d have wanted to be there.
Lovely photos, memories to hold onto.
Well done David .
And where has the last years gone?
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I hope he somehow knows! It was a lovely day (despite the weather) and I found the ceremony quite emotional. I don’t know where the years have gone – it seems like it was only weeks, not years, since Dad went.
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just think of him peering out of the bowl and wagging his tail. My dad’s regret, at least one of them, when he knew he had a terminal cancer was knowing he’d not see his beloved grandchildren graduate. It’s always toughest on those left behind but looks like the three of you did him proud. Oh and love the splash of colour you brought to proceedings Mary!
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Oh, Geoff, that must have been hard for your dad. At least mine didn’t even realise he’d miss his grandson’s graduation. He’d have loved it.
Glad you like the coat. The scarf was very damp because David borrowed it to run through the streets in the rain to Bute Hall – then gave it, wet, to a friend to put in her teeny little handbag.
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A lovely tribute to three generations (for you should give credit to yourself for those achievements too).
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Thanks, Jessica. I guess I can take a bit of the credit – though not for his dissertation which was all scientific and might have been written in ancient Greek for the sense it made to me!
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This was very touching Mary. A lovely way to include your dad in the family celebration.
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Thank you, Paul. He would have loved it – especially if he was being given a good lunch afterwards.
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A fantastic way to remember your Dad and I’m sure he would have been proud. Many congratulations to your son and the whole family, Mary!
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Thanks, Olga. Yes, he would have been proud of his grandson’s achievements – as I am!
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Both you and your Dad have every right to be proud – and I adore your coat!
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Thanks, Lucinda. Glad you like the coat – it’s the only good thing about winter!
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I do like – the coat that is, not winter, I’m freezing here. But, if you ever get tired of it, the coat, not winter, you know where you can send it! 🙂
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Not a chance! My coat and I are going through our third winter together and will never be parted.
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Big congratulations, I am absolutely certain that the Goldfish would have been thrilled.
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Thank you, Hilary. I think so, too.
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A beautiful tribute, Mary, and the photos are fabulous ❤
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Thanks, Tina. I just wish he was in one of the photos – but I’m sure he was there in some way.
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Of that, you can be sure ❤
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How I enjoyed viewing these wonderful celebratory photos of a great intellectual/academic achievement. Yes, I feel as you do, Mary. Our parents are being remembered in all the best ways when their children and grandchildren (and great-grandchildren) “make” it through life in life-giving and life-blessing ways. Congrats to you and your son and your entire family.
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Thanks so much for leaving such a lovely comment, Pam. I shall pass on your congratulations to the boy.
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Thanks for sharing this wonderful day, Mary. I’m sure the Goldfish would have enjoyed the day with you all. Many congratulations to David on his academic achievements. I love your outfit.
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Thanks, Hugh. The Goldfish would have enjoyed the excitement of the day – though he’d have complained (as I did) about how cold it was. That coat receives a lot of compliments!
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I think this was an amazing post and loved how you celebrated your dad’s life!!! CONGRATS to your son’s achievement! Way to go!🎊💯🏆😊
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Thanks so much, Dani. Thanks so much for your kind comment. It felt good to remember Dad on the day of David’s graduation. I shall pass on your congratulations to my son!
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Thanks so much for passing it on! You’re so welcome! Your post came from the heart and can tell how special he was to your family! I am glad you posted in remembrance to him for this very special day! Yay! I hope you and your family have a fantastic week!😊💖💯
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Thanks, Dani. I’ve just read your latest book review and posted a comment but it didn’t appear! Sometimes I think WordPress doesn’t like me. Anyway, it was a good review.
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It’s probably in spam! I will have to check it out! Thanks for showing your support on my blog!😁 Also you’re very welcome!
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Congratulations on your son’s achievement, Mary. That is fantastic. I love these posts in memory of your father.
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Thanks, Robbie. We’re very proud of him as he had more than a few obstacles to deal with along the way.
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I’m so happy for you and your son. I bet your Dad would have been proud of his grandson! This post brought tears to my eyes, Mary.
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Thank you, Rob. Dad would have been proud of his grandson. I found the ceremony quite emotional and had a few tears in my eyes.
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I wonder if a sign of real maturity is when we can be moved by the accomplishments and longings of complete strangers? I’ve never seen more than a photo of your Son and didn’t even know he existed until today; yet somehow I was able to imagine your Father watching the graduation and I saw the pride in your son’s eyes and I felt proud of him too.
Is that strange?
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No, I don’t think it’s strange. I think it’s wonderful when we are moved by the achievements of strangers. I am often moved by your posts though we’ve never met, I don’t ‘know’ you but there’s a connection. My son deserves to be able to show pride in himself. He’s been through a lot to achieve what he has. Thank you for your words.
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Thanks for the reply. I get all verklempt when I have strong feelings. 😉
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Congrats to your grandson and the whole family, Mary. Quite an accomplishment and I love the smiles.
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Thanks so much! It was a very proud momma day 🙂
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